Tuesday, April 13, 2010

BAD LUCK..........

so many things have happened in such a short short time.... this year can be counted i lost most of my belongings.....first thing first... i lost 2 water tumbler in less then 3 month... sad to think is i really choose and pick before buy the first wan... brother suggestion... use the water mineral bottle... lost buy again.... second... my laptop give me problem... this time might be really big problem.... whole thing can not start... black screen... all this happened after i put it in a sleep mode or maybe after i transfer documents to group member.... kena attack from virus, it time for it to go... nobody knows.... ask few friends about my laptop condition... some say is monitor problem, some say hardware, some say motherboard, some say processor... what do i say headache.... what i really tak sampai hati is the document in it... my stories, my video, my picture, my notes, my previous assignment, my flight intinery.. all gone.... gone and i dont have a extra copy... so what can i say.. other than heartbreak also heartbreak.... impossible i get back inside things if i change the so called kerosakan... plus the cost summore.... HAIZ.. rosak in wrong time summore.... people wanna rush assignment time only breakdown.... was it a sign from god telling me i should study and that why he takes away my laptop... well if that so, the price i have to pay is too big liao... not even really dare to tell family laptop problem... sure bro say again.... haiz... third.. cause i dont believe the early bird get worms,so i choose to register a bit late... guess what happened.. the line breakdown... can not log in to the server... due date just tomorrow.. so another one word that is die... maybe indirectly i choose to stay outside but that not really my plan... dont know la.. leave to god.... human propose, god dispose......

Thursday, March 18, 2010

control

there are a few post that i write half way that i have not being able to finish it up yet.. will post it sometime soon. one thing i wish to share here is i feel i'm getting more and more hard to control myself. i dont know why but i feel very rebelious nowadays. not rebelious with family but with friends. i just feel the urge to prove my point and rebel what they say.. what happened to me... i just cant seems to control myself anymore. is it from the effect i too controling myself. i need to control it back but now i'm lost, totally lost in how i will manage to do that. i also dont know how to explain... guess there are something wrong with me somewhere out of no where.... haiz..... i also dont know how this attitude will come and hit me where by right i'm already over the rebelious period... can it be say that my development terbantut that now only i grow..... haiz.... could someone please tell me how to control back myself....
because of my rebelious attitude that hit me nowadays, i feel that i indirectly hurt some of my friend or maybe i'm too sensitive but i dont really enjoy this rebelious attitude.. haiz.... there are also something wrong with me also in my trust towards my own life principle... i dont know why but i seems to question back my own principle which i have honour for few years already.... guess the devil of me started to show it kewujudan and if the angel side of me cant win this war, everything gone.... it sound like i'm mad right... fighting with self thought, i do scared i will..... oh god.... guess i should find time to relax back my mind before i do gone mad... now i know too much question on moral values is not good for mind.. and being a psychologist student, i cant seems to help myself also.... haiz.... how to balanced the evil and the angel side of me.... i truely need help.......

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Something I wish I can sucessfully overcome.

After so many years living my life, I finally know and realise something.. all over the years, there are so many things i wish i can have or should i say i wish to do but i just didn't done it. and from there people started to realise that I'm sort of a person who only say but no action.. actually i do wish to be a person who not only say but actually did the things that i say but there are some fear in me that prevent me from really do the things that i want. fear indeed have a really big impact on all the action that i should but not done. and the fear here is apply to many aspect in life.
first fear, do you all really know that i actually wanted to be someone of importance. someone of importance here might be someone with post. but all through my life, i didn't hold any important post. not in primary school, secondary school and surely not in university. since first semester, I've been jokingly telling friends to vote for me when there is an election and when there is, i not even dare to make myself a nominee.. why?? partly, i didn't know how to register as a nominee but i think that a bullshit. i didn't take the effort to know or to ask around. secondly, i was not active. this is the contradiction that happened in my life.. i wish to have some position, but serious speaking, i not really comfortable with unknown people... and because of it very rare i will join groups.. so i just let the opportunity that knock the door slip through.. make a quiet entrance and i believe i will make a quiet living also. honest speaking, i fear failure.. failure in a sense of rejection.. fear have prevent me from getting so much things that i wish to have but still fear hold a large part in my life and my heart. another example of fear is during my tutorial class. the lecturer ask volunteer of people to go in front of the class and from there, there will be groups who will pick you up asking you to join their groups. this can test the popularity of a person in term of finding members of group assignment. i so wish to be there to know how many people or groups will ask me to join them but i fear.. i fear, nobody willing to pick me up and it will be very embarrass.. you see, fear again prevent me from doing something...
there are also friends who thought me to act as if today is the last day i'm alive and this will help me to be more daring to tell out things that i wish to say or inside my heart.. i guess my answer would bring disappointment to you all... actually i more willing to bring the things that i have in heart to my grave then to tell out.. why?? for me, as long as i didnt say out, there is a hope... if i say out and it turn out to be positive then its alright, but if it turn out to be negative then disappointment will crept in.... how to change if i dont even have the daring to face the fear of failing... maybe part of it is i cant accept the best that i can do is not the best after all...
so many things and yes there are so many things in my mind... and most of the time i just keep it inside my heart... who will know if i just keep it in heart?? i'm sure you all sure have this question, but when i do say out do people take me seriously.. i seriously doubt it... i really dont know how or who is the actual me in other people eyes.. so many different answer and all the answer is not consistent at all.. why wanted to know how people look at you, important is how you look at yourself. i used to say to myself but i guess society prove me wrong.. society have its ways of making you feel guilty by not following the norm of it...
one more things that i would like to share, i hold on tight with this principle in my life.. treat people by how you want to be treated.... dont judge and you will never be judge, understand people and you will be understood, help and you will be helped... well i guess with this principle that i have, sometime la, i feel very tired... cause things that happened is different... so different.... till i started to question it truth in it.... should i continue to hold on this principle or should i abandon it.... i guess the problem here is maybe i aspect people will do the same to me when i face the same situation but never once did i really get back what i have done.... maybe that the dissapointment... my temple teacher say that, when we do things, dont hope people will do the same back, just help without thinking of reward... but to really achieve that it need time... so sometime i say to myself, i help someone someone because i owe him or her in my previous life and i guess when i have this thinking, it help a bit..... overall can say i live a life that are full of contradiction.... i wish to know how to sort all out but in the time being, i guess it is unsortable.... wait till time teach me more
i guess my post here didnt quite link and i jump from here to there and from there to here but that is the thought i have in mind.... something i wish to change is how to be a better me in term of treating myself better.... love myself more... for i know very well the first and strictest judger of myself is myself... sometime i know i can show my temper when its suitable but i control it for i know i sure will feel guilty... what is the use of scolding people when will feel guilty later... so what i do, endure.... that why i rarely get angry and fight... but it come with a price.. a heavy price of endurance.....

theng

Sunday, January 10, 2010

Revolution

The movie “Bodyguard and assassin” is a quite boring movie that I watch. Even though it touches about history, a subject that I like, I still found the movie boring. I can for sure guarantee that if I watch the movie alone or watch it in the video; I could never last the whole session. Can’t really caught the meaning in it cause the plot is scattered all over the place. Things that are obvious are all the things that happened are about the arrival of Dr. Sun, the man who changes China. Since I can’t run out from the cinema half way, I continue watch it till it end.
From it, I manage to get enlightened on some fact of life. Revolution, the word itself mean change and change surely include sacrifice. This is true by how many people that have dead in the process of revolution that being lead by Dr. Sun, a fact that no one can denied. Hmmm… this part make me wonder, what is the difference being the leader and the people. The leader thought about the change, proposed it to the people, and people who accept it fight for the change with their valuable life. The leader faces the most risk but always safe for the people exchange it with their life. There no much difference a leader and the people, both breaths the same air, take water and food for their survival and is called human. The differences in them is just the leader was the first one who thought about the change and dare enough to proposed it to the people. So everybody have the capability to be the leader but what make us different is we always take the safe route. There are some who have thought about change and changes here can be change in many aspects such like lifestyle, work and many more but very feel dare to take action to make it come truth for it involve great risk and moving from something that are certain to uncertain scared many soul.
Another point about revolution is it involves sacrifice. Change can never happen without sacrifice. Changes in China were exchange by the life of people but what about changes in our life. Isn’t it involving sacrifice too? I once heard someone say, to get something valuable, you need to sacrifice ten things that are valuable to you now. I found it quite true for I finally experience it. To get a degree, I sacrifice time with family and come to an unknown place, knowing very well my parents have grown old as days passed by and the time they can accompany me also getting lesser and lesser. Hmmm.. now only I realize that this is the sacrifice that I have make but did I try my best for the degree.. I doubt it… I never regret the times when I actually write the answer during the exam for I have done my very best but I regret the times that I can take to study but I didn’t… hahahahaha….. Something for me to change too.. I promised myself to be positive so I will cross out negative feeling now…
I need to make my sacrifice something that are worthwhile so I will do my very best… hope my revolution will be successful.. a revolution that will change the old me to someone new, someone that have self confidence, someone who would never scared to make decision…. I have make mine, how about you?

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Bye Bye 2009

2009 is already in history and 2010 is in the making..... many fun things have happened in this short 1 month plus a bit break in Penang.... Well, other than work in the weekends, weekdays was fun... eventhough i didn't go out everyday, life in the house is not as dreadful as it seems.... i manage to catch up with games, chatting with friends and it's just great..... leaving behind books, assignment and some self confusion was a great relieve..... i also tried out many things in this short one month.....
First activity in penang is movie time with cousin sis which i have already post up.. this sem break was a very good time for me to bond back the relationship between me and cousin sis.... she sleep over at my house and we have pillow talk till 3 something in the morning.... going out shopping together and share life wisdom together.... such a great fun and she manage to ask me tried out new things... hahahahaha.... memorable momment is recently when she ask me to try out some dress.... fong theng in dress??? after so many years in boy looks??? with this type of body shape??? it got to be kidding right... hahhahahaha..... memorable.... it was the first time i see myself wearing a dress and more femine after like around 15++ years didnt wear..... hahahahahaha..... but still feel kinda weird wear a dress.... hahahahahaha......
then activity with friend is with sue lin in starwalk.... walking 10km.... fong theng walk 10km then go for work and stand for another 8+ hours... gotta be kidding.. but that what i did.... 10km walk was tiring but it was in that momment i learn some fact of life... the time during the walk also being use to ponder over some issue that i face.... really tired out.... and when i get to work time i can hardly bend my legs and walk limpingly... till the security guard also ask me what happened to my legs.... hahahhaahahaha... learn that if you join starwalk, don't go to work.... choose only one for human can hardly do both.... manage to finish the walk in 1 hour and 45 minute.... hahahahahaha...... but i would reconsider the so called short 10km i have in my thought if sue lin ask me to join again.... round the route with car.. anytime... i even offeen to be the driver... but to walk.... hmmmm.. got to double think.... hahahahaha.. anyway is a good things also la... i know my own ability from this walk and have tasted ang chou mi sua cooked by sue lin... haahhaahahahahahaha........ sorry for unable to attend the meetup with amy that time..... sorry.....
then time with family members is also bad.... we have so memorable things to do also... such like having dinner outside, shopping together, and many more..... time in penang is great this time....... hahahaha
lastly about myself...... this short one month holiday is super exciting... i learn more about myself and know what is the actual feeling i feel towards things in happened.... there are dissapointment, shameful but there are also happy, sastified momment.... i guess i do slowly grow up already after like terbantut all this while... ahahahhaha..... but i will tried to keep on with the characteristic that make fong theng is fong theng.....
hmmmmm..... going back sabah liao.... that also means holidays end liao.... hope 2010 would be a great year for me to explore and learn more..... hahahahhaahahahahaha.....

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

A movie, A lesson

I very seldom go for movies in cinema and when I do go for one, usually I learned something from the movie. Recently, I go for a movie with the title "Twilight" with my cousin sister. She is the one who suggest the movie and serious speaking, the title didn't attract me to watch it. It seems to me an action movie, which is not really my type but there are always the proverb " don't judge a book by its cover", so I do watch the movie. Well, I developed a second thought after I watch the movie.
I used to have this thought that choosing a partner that love us more than we do, we will feel more 'bahagia'. Since he love us more than we do, the chances they break our heart is very low and if something do happened that make the relationship can't last long, we will not feel as much hurt as we feel when someone we love hurt us.. At least we didnt put in a total of our heart. I do discuss this topic during my form 6 with friends and they ask me " Aren't it's more bahagia, when someone we love, love us back as much as we love them. Aren't it's more perfect and bahagia". this thought do leave some impact on me but i hold on to mine...
well this movie made me realise something... Human is very selfish when it comes to love... just like belle.... when Edward leave her, she find Jacob... maybe just as friend la, but her action give Jacob a feeling like he got chance.... then till the end, no matter how much Jacob love, protect and care for her, she still choose back Edward without even think of maybe she should consider Jacob... she can protect the one she love that is Edward but no matter how much Jacob have done, when it comes to choose, Edward will be her choice.
Come to the character of Jacob.. Actually this character of Jacob really give me a good point to think of... you see, Jacob likes belle very much, eventhough she know belle already have someone she love, he never give up on her, he was there when belle was down, he was there to protect her... he was there everytime belle need someone.... but belle never once there to view things on his point... can see how he feel when the time she beg belle not to follow Alice, the saddest part of all is how belle stop the fight between him and edward... it seems that belle doesnt want them to hurt each other but indirectly, belle was just protecting edward.. the chances edward loose to Jacob was very high cause wolf kill vampire easily... see how selfish love is... eventhough Jacob didnt ask for anything when he give her love and protection towards belle but indirectly he do hope belle would realise and at least thought of him as an option and not truely on edward side.... from here, i learned that, no matter how much we sacrifice towards someone we love but that person didnt love us, it would be useless because when choices come, they would choose back the one they love.... all the sacrifice seems meaningless.... and when that days come, we bring our broken heart with us and we cant even feel sad and act like we break up from a relationship... reason why? we never start a relationship so where come the word break up... others will just say us as tepuk sebelah tangan sahaja... not love... so we dont even have the right to mourn our broken heart.... all we can do is see the one we love happy and be happy... hard.. hard...

theng

Saturday, November 21, 2009

An Unexplain Feeling

I dont know why but i feel a sense of calm when i came back penang for this semester. i still remember last semester i come back with a heavy heart and if possible i wish the semester didnt end that fast but this semester i somesort hope and wait for the time where i can go out from Sabah. it seems like i wish to find some place outside then sabah for me to really deal and settle with my own confused thought... so this holiday is a long awaiting ones... i can still remember my feeling when i was inside the plane just momment before it takes off.... as soon as it takes off, my heart was calm and very happy.. no more heavy heart.... but on that flight i cant sleep well as i planned cause i already sleep the night before... anyway i was glad i was on the plane..... hahahahahahaha...... coming back to penang, after settle down all my things , i go back to my house which is quite late in the afternoon already, i started to realise how great home is.... how comfortable my bed is and many more..... shortly, i was very happy i can finally came back and have a time of my own to sort down a few important things in my life.... hopefully i will successfully settle all my things before semester start... one last things is i was extremely happy to come back penang this time... maybe is because i wanna escape something and i know majority of my friends would tell me to face it rather then escape but when yo know very well you cant cope with that, sometime just get away from it is the best solution.... hahahahaha.. ok la...write till here for now...

theng....